Tuesday, December 1, 2015

In the Faces of Our Children



In the Faces of Our Children                                       

This morning I remember to hold Nigel
-a few minutes for our bodies to remember that we are on the same team
Before we begin working out what he will wear
What he will eat for breakfast.
As I hold his never quite still self, gratefulness seeps in.
This morning he remembers to go to the bathroom before he eats
-instead of wiggling in his chair painfully for 10 minutes.
He listens to his body!
We have 10 minutes before the bus comes.
His face lights up when I bring out the sight word cards.
His delight in learning!
In putting the little pieces of the world together in a great connected jigsaw puzzle!
As he sounds out “who” and “eat”, “woo” and “et”, his face twitching in concentration,
I sense the strength of this child. 
He will do great things with his mind.

Maggie asks me again if she can wear her snowboots to school
Even though it is 45 degrees outside.
She is relentless to express her ideas
Without consideration of practical details.
She wants to do many things at the same time
Wants to read and eat breakfast together
While I comb her hair.
She hums and wiggles constantly at mealtime
Makes faces in the stainless steel rice pot
All supper long.
Yesterday morning she was creating stories.
Before I knew it, the boys were following her around the yard
Carrying Legos, piling up grass for her plastic horse
Following her relentless creative spirit.
She will be active, she will inspire others
She will bring movement and magic to the blank, dark spaces

A creator.






Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Monday, August 17, 2015

Drawing owls with "sharp eyes"

Drinking tea made by her sister on day 7 of her feverish illness

Eating breakfast

Morning tea maker, disappointed about last day of summer vacation

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

Introducing the PIC-flict


Further thoughts re: discussion about parenting, the introduction of the PICflict.

It is easy to think (in the early stages of parenting) that one can pick and choose which experiences he would like to shape his children’s upbringing, and thereby what values he wants to instill in them.  (I want my children to know how to work, I want my children to appreciate the value of money, I want my children to have idyllic carefree play time, etc.)  Unfortunately, there are limits to many of these good intentions.  Can one simply pick and choose values, experiences that may come from different eras, cultures, contexts, lump them together in a customized amalgamation and expect it all to work?
Society and culture has shifted, is always shifting.  From rural and agrarian to metropolitan, from industrial to professional, from religious to secular, from reliance on community and self-labor to mechanization, technology, education, etc.  The list goes on.

These shifts are not only in ideals, morals, world-views.  They are concurrently shifts in how time is spent, how easy or accessible certain activities are in the flow of our routines, how valued and supported certain things are.  How we acquire the necessities of life changes.

For example:  We don’t NEED to plant a garden.  To really garden, one needs to put in time.  A couple hours per week minimum just in maintenance?  Not to mention research time, planning time, planting time, troubleshooting time, processing of produce time.  One needs to have a means of working the soil.  Do we have access to a tiller?  A small tractor?  A trailer to haul one?  Neighbors or family who we feel comfortable borrowing from?  Are we gone many weekends of the summer?  We travel more nowadays.  We have soccer games to go to.  Skating lessons.  Family camps.  Vacations.  Six Saturdays spent at the soccer complex are six Saturdays that we’re not going to be able to spend in the garden.  So the ideal of (I want my child to have opportunity to play sports) is in competition with the ideal (I want my child to participate in the life cycle of a garden).   Just one example of a Parenting Ideal Conflict. (or PICflict)

I think a truth that I’m whittling toward with all this babble is that the transference of values to our children requires TIME.  Not only is that time so difficult to come by, but how we spend our time has changed a lot, even from the time we were kids to parents.  


Thoughts?